The value of (emotional) baggage and boxes

Baggage, we all have it. One person carries around more than another, but fact is: we all have baggage. Emotional baggage but also physical baggage. Actual stuff you carry around because you are used to doing so, because you’ve decided you need them near you, because for some reason you believe these things define you. Whether it’s your phone, your wallet, the (designer) clothes you wear or the size of your purse: it’s up to you to decide whether your worth, as a human being, is established by the value of these items. After all, these (material) items are one by one replaceable…

I have an attic full of boxes. Boxes filled with stuff I’ve bought years ago, fought over during a break-up and stored in the 16 sq. meters of my parents’ attic. While the contents of these boxes used to make me happy, nowadays the sight of them fills me with sadness. I know these boxes don’t define me but they’re mine and even though I haven’t opened them for years, they are touchable memories and a reminder of the person I used to be. Which is, in addition to being sad, also a bit scary as we all know my horrible sense of taste…IMG_20150531_151452The truth is that we all tend to weigh ourselves down by over-validating goods that aren’t necessarily a requirement in order to live a happy life. We stuff our pockets, rooms and attics with items that meant something once, but this doesn’t mean it will keep its value for ever. Things that were once worth fighting for are now merely a burden because you might feel obliged to hold on it, even though you care significantly less today. The same goes for social pressure to own certain pricey brands of clothing or expensive mobile phones. It’s a ridiculous though to spend money you don’t have on items you don’t need just to feel accepted.

If you are excluded from a group just because you don’t meet their ‘standards’, you have to keep in mind it says more about that group than it does about you. Whether you are unable to meet the requirements due to your financial situation or because it’s going against your moral values and believes, the feeling of not fitting in should not affect the way you see yourself. Not being part of a group doesn’t define you. Don’t allow others to treat you like a cardboard box stacked away on a dark and dusty attic. You’re a perfectly fine individual that’s worthy of living the life you feel you deserve.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *