The misperception of self-image

A few weeks ago I uploaded a picture on Instagram with the accompanying text that I’d spent an inspiring week with my favourite trucker and learned a lot about him as well as about myself. I was intrigued by the misperceptions I seemed to have about myself. Although I won’t blindly go with his opinion, it’s been an eye-opener to be made aware of the way he sees me and the way I see myself. He’s quite smitten with me and obviously thinks I’m the prettiest woman he knows (which is the only right thing for him to say otherwise things could get ugly) and I keep telling him that not everybody shares his point of view. Regardless, the difference in opinion has got me thinking…

Do you think your self-image is matching reality? Or do you acknowledge that you tend to have an unnecessary negative opinion about yourself? It’s a fact that women in general are experts in bringing themselves down. Perhaps it’s because it’s easier to deal with your own negative voice rather than hearing it aloud from someone else? Or maybe it’s because we’ve all been ruined by a certain image we think we need to live up to before we can be labelled as ‘pretty’ or even ‘acceptable’?Quote-3I’ve been dealing with an annoying conscious of my overly negative self-image for years and for the first time in all these years I’m finally making progress in accepting myself, both inside and out. Throughout the past 3 years I’ve lost and gained weight and in either case I didn’t achieve the state of happiness I’d expected to get. I made myself believe that, when I’d hit a certain number on the scale, happiness would flow through me as an out-of-body experience and I’d be confident, feminine and strong like the admirable women you see on TV and in magazines. Truth be told… I didn’t experience that feeling by reaching my goal weight. Not even close. My poisoned mind kept telling me it still wasn’t good enough. It seems there’s this common thing about not being ‘good enough’. What’s up with that?

Although I might not know you in real life, I firmly believe you are a beautiful and admirable person. Whatever may have been imprinted in your mind, I suggest you start realising these thoughts are not the truth. You are not arrogant when you admit to yourself that you are a good and wonderful human being. The negative load that has been placed on confidence has ruined the powerful value of self-love. To love yourself is to accept yourself and acknowledge your uniqueness and your flaws. You don’t have to fulfil any image other than your own, although it might be necessary to re-paint that picture first as the one you have now is probably tainted by the pressure of certain model-requirements. See it as a clean slate that you can fill in with your drawing of what you believe you are and be astonished by its beauty: your beauty.

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