The legacy you’ll leave behind

It’s not something you want to think about while living here and now, but the impressions you make today are the legacy you’ll leave behind. If you want to be remembered fondly and as a nice person, you have to be a nice person. Whichever way you see yourself and the way you want others to see you, are decisions you ought to life by now. Leaving a lasting impression is not easy, especially not if you want it to be a good one…

The secret to being liked and respected is to be genuine and persistent. When you’re all over the place, one day being kind and the next moment being a total bitch, people will find it more difficult to create a decent picture of you. Unfortunately a lot of impressions are made by hear and say, often not even based on who (or how) you are in person. That’s why I’ve decided to only care about how I’ll be remembered by the people I care about. This has been a huge relieve because I used to care too much about what others thought of me, even though their opinion really didn’t matter.
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Perhaps it’s a bit of an odd thought to have at 27, but I don’t know how much time I’m granted to walk this Earth so I might as well make the best of it and use every day as an opportunity to be the best version I can be. I know I’ve already admitted to being ‘all over the place’, which is nothing but the truth, and I am sure people will remember me as someone who wasn’t just one thing. I can’t control the way I’m seen by those who know me (and there are only a few) but the least I can do is offer them the pleasure of getting to know the real me.

Nowadays it’s all about being seen, being heard and being acknowledged. What may seem important today, might not mean anything in the future. Fifty years from now, we might look back on our lives today and realise how consumed we are by the general impression we want to make on random strangers, both in real-life and online. There’s this common, social acceptance which allows everybody to express their opinion about everything you say and do. How eco-friendly you are, your online shenanigans, the way you raise your kids, your eating habits, the looks of your body, the way you want to live your life…

The thing is, these strangers won’t be able to remember you for who you are because you’ve only shown them your cover. What matters is the impression you’ve made on the people who’ve been allowed to read beyond the cover; who’ve been part of the stories. Your life is a journey and unfortunately you don’t know how long it will last. Don’t wait until later to become the person you want to be. Regardless of what strangers may say, who you are is what matters to those who care about you.

One thought on “The legacy you’ll leave behind

  1. Je bent en blijft mijn zonnestraal! en ik ben ervan overtuigd dat je dat voor meer mensen bent en zal worden <3

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