How a stranger changed my life

It’s funny how a single, simple challenge managed to completely turn my life around. Whilst looking through the tabs of my site I stumbled on my Pre-30 To Tick-Off List (Pre-30 TTOL) and was reminded that I’d challenged myself to go on a blind date. I think it goes without saying that my site has been heavily neglected the past 3 months, mainly due to the fact that I had other priorities to obey to such as growing a tiny human being inside of me… Which brings me to the reason of this intro: this baby wouldn’t have ever been thought of if I hadn’t agreed to go on a blind date last year!

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Announcing a new chapter

At some point in time you’ll be given no other option then to stop giving a damn about what anyone else may think. When a life-changing event occurs you cannot let the pressure or fear of how others will respond to it, overrule your emotions and/or happiness. This has been a lesson I’ve recently experienced firsthand and although I initially tried to anticipate their response, I soon realized it was draining me emotionally so I decided to let it go. I let go of the fear of being judged by those who are close to me, those who are considered to be friends. I decided to allow my feelings of happiness to overrule any potential negative reaction and accept that all that mattered was how my boyfriend and I felt about it. Not the least because it’s mostly our lives that are about to change drastically.

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Creating your own label

The blank pages of WordPress have been staring back at me for the past few weeks. Taunting me, eagerly waiting to be filled with words, either meaningful, hysterical or anything in between. But no words came out and the pages remained as pearly white as I wish my teeth were. There’s been a lot on my mind lately but unfortunately none of these thoughts was enough to dedicate an entire post to. Although I’m commonly known to be all over the place, hence I probably could get away with stuffing three different topics in to one post, it just didn’t feel right to try. Regardless of each of these thoughts being important and plenty of food for thought to share, they all felt a bit too fragile to share and expose to the outside world. Somehow, in the past few weeks, I’ve become protective.

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The misperception of self-image

A few weeks ago I uploaded a picture on Instagram with the accompanying text that I’d spent an inspiring week with my favourite trucker and learned a lot about him as well as about myself. I was intrigued by the misperceptions I seemed to have about myself. Although I won’t blindly go with his opinion, it’s been an eye-opener to be made aware of the way he sees me and the way I see myself. He’s quite smitten with me and obviously thinks I’m the prettiest woman he knows (which is the only right thing for him to say otherwise things could get ugly) and I keep telling him that not everybody shares his point of view. Regardless, the difference in opinion has got me thinking…

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Challenge: Being happy on your own

Sometimes it feels like I’m going around in circles: addressing the same topic several times but in a slightly different context. I hope you’re not getting bored with me yet because I still have loads of things I want to write about, but the on-going things on my mind are often the same: personal development, positivity, raising awareness of our presence within society and general acceptance. It’s not an ordinary piece of cake but you know (if you’re a frequent visitor): I’m always up for a challenge!

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A general shout-out for kindness

Alright, it’s time to take the gloves off and be brutally honest, mostly towards ourselves. Would you be able to honestly answer if I’d ask you: What influences the way you see other people? Do you easily judge by appearance? Have you every publicly commented or ridiculed someone’s behaviour? Do you think before you act? Are you aware of the way your thoughts, comments and/or facial expressions could be affecting those people? I know this is going to be a sensitive subject for some but I want to discuss it regardless of the dislikes. Especially, because those who are finding it difficult to be confronted with their own insensitive behaviour might be the ones whom are in need of this message…

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The importance of having bad days too

So, the fact that I haven’t published anything for two weeks has absolutely nothing to do with the title of today’s post. To be honest, the past couple of weeks have been the contrary, meaning the days (and especially the weekends) have been quite overwhelmingly positive. But just because I’ve been relatively happy (though almost to the extent that it’s been a bit out of proportion compared to the last 12 years of my life…) doesn’t mean it’s a legit excuse to neglect my website. It just felt odd, searching for (meaningful, inspiring, thoughtful) things to write about while my mind was fully occupied by something I wanted to keep to myself. Although it still doesn’t feel like it’s the right time to be sharing any details, I did feel the need to write again and was inspired by one of the many deep conversations I’ve had this week.

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The chain-reaction of change

Recently I’ve experienced the power of admitting to change, even when these changes are somewhat challenging and perhaps a bit scary. By acknowledging my fear(s) I took control over the situation and was able to move forward because my anxiety was no longer a feeling or just a thought, it was an actual thing to be considered and acted upon. Dwelling on making decisions is an art I’ve mastered in the past 12 years, out of fear of making the wrong decision(s) and ending up regretting them or upsetting someone. In the meantime, one (rather important) thing I failed to understand was that dwelling and postponing actually added to the level of stress and anxiety I was experiencing. I did mention I tend to prefer learning things the hard way, didn’t I …?

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The value of (emotional) baggage and boxes

Baggage, we all have it. One person carries around more than another, but fact is: we all have baggage. Emotional baggage but also physical baggage. Actual stuff you carry around because you are used to doing so, because you’ve decided you need them near you, because for some reason you believe these things define you. Whether it’s your phone, your wallet, the (designer) clothes you wear or the size of your purse: it’s up to you to decide whether your worth, as a human being, is established by the value of these items. After all, these (material) items are one by one replaceable…

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The legacy you’ll leave behind

It’s not something you want to think about while living here and now, but the impressions you make today are the legacy you’ll leave behind. If you want to be remembered fondly and as a nice person, you have to be a nice person. Whichever way you see yourself and the way you want others to see you, are decisions you ought to life by now. Leaving a lasting impression is not easy, especially not if you want it to be a good one…

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